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Title: Family hired private detective to find me after I received a donated kidney.

Original Post:

I’m in the United States, however I’m nervous to disclose the state narrowing a search to find me. If unwarranted I can disclose the state.

I was the recipient of a kidney and I declined to ever know who gave it to me and I also noted that I didn’t want any kind of messages from the family. I appreciate the kidney but am not religious and believe everyone should be a donor and it shouldn’t be such a big deal.

Last year the family of the donor pretty much showed up at my doorstep.

They honestly aren’t doing anything that I would call “harassment” just occasional texts (I never gave them my number) inviting me to holidays and some emails with the mother really wanting to spend time with me because part of her daughter is inside me. I politely decline and reinstate my personal beliefs or ignore (depending on the day)

What I would like to know is if I have any legal recourse in how the private detective got this information. And I am curious if it is possible to force them to stop communicating with me.

solarbaby6141d
I guess on one weird level the idea behind it is kind of sweet but on multiple other levels it's creepy. I mean, it's a kidney.

This isn't like it's a Hallmark/Disney movie or that one episode of Eerie Indiana. It wasn't a heart. It's a kidney. People can live with one kidney.

A kidney is just a weird organ to fixate on. Is the original donor alive? If not, is this some sort of creepy grieving thing?